25 years ago, MCC Toronto became home to the world’s first legally recognized same-sex marriages.
Though love has never depended on paperwork to be sacred or true, legal recognition of same-sex marriage marked a watershed moment in the liberation of 2SLGBTQIA+ communities.
It means hospital visitations without question. The right to make medical decisions in crisis. The ability to adopt and raise children together. Spousal protections in death. Shared benefits, immigration sponsorship, inheritance, pension access. Safety and legal legitimacy. Dignity under the law.
25 years later, we asked the MCC Toronto community to share their love stories and advice on love.
RONNIE & DJ
TOGETHER 15 YEARS, ENGAGED
Ronnie: “The moment I realized that she was special to me was when she saw me on my worst days and didn’t look at me any differently … What’s surprised me most about loving and growing with her is that we’ve been together since adolescence and yet I’m still learning her …
Sometimes when I look at her I see what kind of person God intended for us all to be … My relationship means everything to me. It’s like having that connection that keeps you grounded to Earth, when everything else around you is in disarray and destruction you can turn to that person and find some sort of peace even if it’s only for a moment …
The advice I would give to young queer and trans people would be to ensure you love yourself wholly and unapologetically first …
I’ve been attending online services with MCC Toronto for two years now as well as attend bible study when I can and I’m just so thankful to have a place I can come to and feel truly welcome and seen as a lesbian woman … I’m happier and more at peace with not only who I am but also with how I can build my relationship with God.”
GRACE & DEB
MARRIED AT MCC TORONTO, 2009
“Grace Ross and Deb Shantz – growing in love.“
ANONYMOUS
MARRIED AT MCC TORONTO, 2011
“We met on September 10, 2007, and married at MCC exactly four years later, on September 10, 2011. Although our journey together ended with our separation, it was never because of a lack of love …
She was my person—the one with whom I felt safest, the one I envisioned my past, present, and future with. She was, and is, the love of my life … I will always be grateful for that September day when I looked up, saw her for the first time, and knew my world had changed …
I always felt I had discovered a hidden jewel in her. Beneath her tough exterior was a deeply tender, sensitive, and vulnerable person, and she trusted me enough to let me see those parts of her that others did not have access to. In return, she saw mine … I was so proud to be her wife. Even after years together, every time I looked at her, the world seemed to stop for a moment. She took my breath away. Loving her changed me forever …
Be open to what may not seem obvious. When life gives you a moment that stops you in your tracks, pay attention and step into it—it may change your life … Check in with the people you love, even when everything seems fine … The end of a relationship does not diminish its value. I spent twelve extraordinary years with my person, and the ending does not erase the love, joy, and life we shared. I carry those memories with gratitude and consider myself fortunate to have loved—and been loved—so deeply and so authentically.”
BRIAN & DAVID
TOGETHER 33 YEARS
Brian: “My late husband David Corbett and I met at Pride June 30, 1991 … in 2022, on a transatlantic cruise, I got down on bended knee and proposed marriage on the promenade deck. He was so shocked and surprised … [We] married in our living room a year later with a good friend who I served with as a Deacon at MCCT …
David knew me better than anyone. He was my rock … as far as I am concerned we were married for all of our relationship of 33 years. We just made it legal much later. Of course we had our challenges but always stood and supported one another …
My words of advice are do not give up on love. I was not looking for love and David came into my life unexpectedly. Be sure to openly communicate to one another, do not hold grudges and do not take your partner for granted. Things can change at a moments notice. Have no regrets and follow your heart.“